Facebook Etiquettes For a Muslimah

1.    Stay Away from that which does not concern you.

Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: “From the perfection of a person’s Islaam is that he leaves alone that which does not concern him.”(Tirmidhi, classed as sahih by Ibn al-Qayyim in al-Jawaab al-Kaafi, p. 112)

2.    Do not share links of Fahsh (indecent, obscene) songs and movie clips, because:

a)      It is disliked to advertise your sins – you will be accountable for what you do in your personal life but do not advertise your sins

Abu Hurairah ؓ said: I heard the Messenger of Allah ﷺ say: “All of my ummah will be forgiven except those who sin openly. It is a part of sinning openly when a man does something at night, then the following morning when Allah has concealed his sin, he says, ‘O So and so, I did such and such last night,’ when all night his Lord has concealed him and the next morning he uncovers what Allah had concealed.” (Agreed Upon).

b)      If you share something which is a sin and somebody clicks on it then the sin will go back to you. Why do you want to multiply your sins? Don’t we have enough sins of our own?

Narrated Abu Hurairah  ؓ, that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: “Whoever calls others to guidance will have a reward like that of those who follow it, without that detracting from their reward in the slightest. And whoever calls others to misguidance will have a burden of sin like that of those who follow it, without it detracting from their burden in the slightest.” (Sahih Muslim)

3.      Do not share personal (hijabless) pictures on FB, because:

a)      FB owns whatever you upload, go and read what FB states in its terms:

“For content that is covered by intellectual property rights, like photos and videos (“IP content”), you specifically give us the following permission, subject to your privacy and application settings: you grant us a non-exclusive, transferable, sub-licensable, royalty-free, worldwide license to use any IP content that you post on or in connection with Facebook (“IP License”).”

b)      You are violating hijab and that is a sin. If you do not wear a hijab then do not delay in wearing it, dear sister! But why double the sin by putting up pictures so that when you’re not even infront of the non-mahram you’re violating hijab.

c)      The issue of privacy. If you haven’t stringently monitored your privacy settings your pictures can land in the hands of people you really don’t want them to.

d)     There is a lot of envy out there. Why do you want to put yourselves and your families in the way of harm through nazar (evil eye)?

4.      Share concerns with those whom you feel will benefit you and give you good advice not with the whole world via your FB wall.

5.     Avoid vain talk: dirty jokes, useless quotes from songs, just dots and question marks which have no meaning and will generate a useless commentary below your status.

“What has caused you to enter Hell?” They will say: “We were not of those who used to offer the Salat (prayers)… And we used to enter into vain discourse with those who engaged [in it]” (Surah Al Muddathir V:42-45)

6.      Think about how much time do you spend/waste on FB:

“By time. Verily, man is in loss, except those who believe and do righteous good deeds, and recommend one another to the truth and recommend one another to patience” (Surah Al-‘Asr)

7.      An excellent reminder while using FB is  Surah Al-Hujurat especially the following ayah:

“O you who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin. And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead? You would detest it. And fear Allah ; indeed, Allah is Accepting of repentance and Merciful” (Surah Al-Hujurat V:12)

8.     Comparing ourselves with others:

“And strain not your eyes in longing for the things We have given for enjoyment to various groups of them, the splendour of the life of this world, that We may test them thereby. But the provision of your Lord is better and more lasting.” (Surah Ta-Ha V:131)

9.    Avoid having contact with non-mehram males: Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen said:  ‘It is not permissible for any (male) person to correspond with a woman who is not his mahram, because of the fitnah (temptation) involved in that.’

Do not add non-mahram to your lists of friends and delete those whom you’ve added in ignorance. You need not be rude in doing so, but explain to them what Allah requires of us as Muslims.

10.     Reality vs. Deception: Escaping from reality via Farmville and the likes

“He (Shaitan) makes promises to them, and arouses in them false desires; and Shaitan’s promises are nothing but deceptions.” (Suarh An-Nisa, V:120)

11.  Share words of wisdom and things that are good Quran, Hadith, recipes, quotes, experiences which will benefit others, pictures of the beautiful creations of Allah and other beneficial information.

It was narrated from Abu Hurairah ؓ  that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: “No people sit in a gathering in which they do not remember Allah or send blessings upon the Prophet ﷺ, but it will be a source of regret for them on the Day of Resurrection, even if they enter Paradise as a reward.” (Ahmad, classed saheeh by Shaykh al-Albaani in al-Silsilah al-Saheehah (no. 76).

12.  Keep your Niyah in check: If I post a Hadith, Ayah or words of wisdom and khair on FB, is it because I want people to ‘Like’ it or is it so I can spread the message of Allah Ta’ala?

It was narrated by Muslim from Abu Hurairah  ؓ that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: “Allah, may He be blessed and exalted, says: ‘I am so self-sufficient that I am in no need of having an associate. Thus he who does an action for someone else’s sake as well as Mine will have that action renounced by Me to him whom he associated with Me.’” (Sahih Muslim)

“(And whoever hopes for the meeting with his Lord…) (Surah Al-Kahf V:110). Ibn ‘Abbas ؓ said: “This verse was revealed about Jundub ibn Zuhayr al-‘Amiri ؓ  who said: ‘I do the deed seeking Allah but I get happy when other people come to know about it’. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said to him: ‘Allah, exalted is He, is pure and does not accept except that which is pure. He does not accept that in which other than Him is associated’. Allah, exalted is He, then revealed this verse”. (Tafsir Asbab Al Nuzul)

Narrated Jundub ؓ: The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, “He who lets the people hear of his good deeds intentionally, to win their praise, Allah will let the people know his real intention (on the Day of Resurrection), and he who does good things in public to show off and win the praise of the people, Allah will disclose his real intention (and humiliate him).  (Sahih Bukhari)

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